Friday, December 5, 2008


What do you do when someone you don't know very well comments on your blog?  Let's say you had no idea that they read your blog.  I suppose there are various reactions.  One is to ignore it, either because you're uncomfortable that they found your blog, or maybe you don't know what to say.  Or you could respond to it, especially if the comment is a complimentary one that says, Hey I love your blog!

I guess I'm just discouraged, because yesterday I commented on a blog that I've been reading for a few months.  I really like the blog, and I said so in my comment, as well as telling a little bit about myself (we both have two girls around the same age).  I know the husband of the person that blogs, but not very well.  Anyway, not only did she not respond to my comment at all, but she responded to a comment after mine, so I know she saw it.  And I'm left to wonder, do I smell?  Do people just not know what to say?  Or do they think I'm a stalker (I had said how I found the blog, and the husband has it posted on a very public site)?  I know that this is not a huge deal, but it bothers me.  No one likes to be ignored, and I guess it is much easier to ignore people over the internet. 

Also, this is not the first time something like this has happened.  I had been reading an acquaintance's blog a few months ago, and she decided to go private.  She told people to email her if they wanted to keep reading, so I did.  She hadn't been aware of my reading her blog, but we knew each other from a singles branch we both went to a few years ago.  She didn't respond for over two weeks...and the entire time, I was just left hanging and wondering if she didn't want me to read her blog.  It sucked!  Okay, so maybe she was busy, I don't know.  She did finally respond, but only by approving me to read her blog; there was no note, no nothing.  It was supremely weird.  And about a week ago, I emailed another acquaintance who has decided to go private, and I am again waiting and wondering the same thing.  I guess it's just not worth it to me.  So if you decide to go private, and I don't know you that well, I guess I just won't be able to read your blog anymore.

Bottom line: Acknowledging people is polite!  Don't leave people's the worst.


Anonymous said...

ugh. I had a lovely comment all for you, but I had problems posting it because I don't use blogger anymore. I tried the open ID, but I goofed it up. Grr.

Anyway, being ignored it annoying.

Ker said...

Word. I was starting to think this post was being ignored, too! :)

Anyway, what was your lovely comment?

Anonymous said...

Oh, I just related a story. I've had to go over to the elementary school a few times recently. The receptionists there have been ignoring me! I just stand there waiting for them to address me. I know they see me. They're right there! I know they might be busy with something, but all I ask is that they say, "I'll be right with you." I just want some acknowledgment. Otherwise, these ladies are very nice. But I think not addressing me is very rude.

Ker said...

Yeah, that is rude. I've been in situations like that, too.